While plenty of lube can be a great accessory for penetrative sex, she says it might be better in small amounts-like, only a few drops-for non-penetrative sex.īut knowing how much lube to use is only part of the picture. “We often say, ‘the wetter the better,’ but that may not apply to all types of sex,” O’Reilly says.
If you focus on your own pleasure, using lube can become second nature, she says. “Like all things sexual, use lube in whatever way feels good for you,” says sexologist Jess O’Reilly Ph.D., host of the Mind Blowing Oral video courses. And, while you probably have a general idea of what to do with it, you might be missing out on some of the added perks it can offer you (and your sex life).īefore we get into all that, just know this: There’s really no wrong way to use lube. You’re not born knowing how to use lube, and it's not always a topic covered in sex ed, so it’s more than fair if you’re not ~exactly~ sure what to do when you get your hands on a bottle.
